Benci a.k.a Hatred

My hatred has been decided by the panel meeting. There's a case on a mix marriage between an Indonesian female diplomat and a foreign citizen. Don't have to mentioned the names. It's already too painful for 'em, no need to add more.
The fact that i post this opinion of mine, not merely because i my self has a foreign citizen boy friend but more because i find the excuse to "discourage" (that is the term they use) female diplomat to have mix marriage is somewhat ridiculous. I'm not saying that what has been said about it is not true but it was more like adding some things to make your report to your boss longer. Unnecessary. I've done that my self...frankly speaking. It happens.
Anyway.... the fact that i cannot talk about it openly is killing me. The fact that i can post it where people can read it makes me nervous. What the heck..
Here's more or less what they say about the case (that might happen to me one day):
1. from human rights point of view, they cannot forbid anybody to get marry to somebody they love, which Ii completely agree.
2. from legal point of view, mix marriage between female diplomat and foreigner cannot be executed (what a term..) because of 2 regulations. First by the foreign ministry. Employees of foreign ministry have to ask permission to the minister meaning that the minister has the power to agree or disagree. Second, considering the Marriage regulation in Indonesia which gives difficult choices for woman who marry foreigners. Either to let go her nationality because automatically she would have her husband citizenship, bearing in mind that my beloved country does not recognize dual citizenship, or make her future husband to have naturalization, which is not as easy as push the one touch washing machine button.
3. from security point of view, diplomat execute both open and secret activities which require sense of awareness. Some concern that having mix marriage, female diplomat would not be able to do her tasks well. (A discriminating statement i would say... How about male diplomat? would they always do their job well so that they can have mix marriage?)
With lots of emotion building up inside me, i say that the main point of this delicate problem is merely because of patriarchy.